About For Men of Color
The Vision
For Men of Color, is a community for men of Black, Brown, mixed race, or of African, Caribbean or Asian ancestry.
Who have a deep longing to be liberated from the many harmful misconceptions of modern masculinity, race and patriarchy.
Who are ready to share in an experience of radical self-discovery towards individual wholeness and belonging grounded in love. Love for self. Love for each other. Love for future generations. Love for the whole.
“Great men cultivate love. Only little men cherish hate.”
— Booker T. Washington
What is For Men of Color?
As men of color, we're always contending with conflicting ideas of what it is to be men in a White-dominant culture. This comes at the expense of us fully maturing into the loving and responsible men the world needs from us.
Our contemporary understanding of masculinity feeds us an array of myths of what it is to be “good” men. All of which has created nothing but problems with our mental and physical health, in our relationships and our workplaces.
However, our collective history has taught us that men need men. Men need men to go deep. Men need men to heal, grow, and evolve. It is in relationship with other men where we truly accept our pain, and potential. It is with men we learn how to love ourselves, our women, children, work and communities at large. It is with men we learn how to be good at being men.
Imagine a place where you'll be seen, heard and fully accepted for the man that you are.
You do not have to hide your race, gender, faith, gifts, family history, trauma or aspirations. In fact all of you is accepted with love, compassion and curiosity.
A place that is committed to receiving the beautiful man that you are, when you cannot see it for yourself. This includes having the courage to look beyond your hurt, and deeply into your soul for the gifts and truths you've been blessed with.
A place where you can break free of the limiting beliefs that sabotage your life, and to live aligned with your core values, virtues and aspirations. This includes liberation from the myths you've held about manhood, race and patriarchy that keeps you from moving forward.
A place where you can envision the life that you've been longing for that is rich in meaning, purpose, love and fulfillment for you.
A place where you can embrace the leader that you are and leave empowered to exercise your power to choose.
A place to reimagine what it is to be a great man, son, brother, husband, partner, father, leader and citizen.
A place where you'll learn the discipline and art of leadership and how to hold yourself accountable for creating the life you want.
Meet Charles
Charles Sue-Wah-Sing: Coach + Facilitator + Author
I'm born Canadian and raised within a multi-generational Guyanese Catholic family with its cultural values and customs. My ancestry includes Indian, Chinese, African, and European.
My father was a dedicated provider, trickster, and alcoholic. He had spent most of his life working or playing golf and engaged his children on special occasions. He had passed away with cancer in his mid sixties. My mother was the nurturer, caretaker, and disciplinarian of the house. She lived with depression and social anxiety for most of her life. My sister, was a handful to live with. My grandparents had their own dynamic as our family elders. I often played the peacekeeper, the fixer and Mr Nice Guy in the family, which had its own challenges then and now.
I studied Design Arts after high school. I became a visual designer which led into a long career in digital design and strategy starting with the advent of the commercialization of the Internet and e-commerce. I've led teams big and small and owned a couple of small businesses along the way.
I’ve been a seeker for divine wisdom and an observer of life for as long as I could remember. It was after school, I began to actively explore my faith, ancestry and culture. I studied many of the world religions, philosophies, sciences, cultures and customs. Which explains my insatiable need for books. I've had many mentors, spiritual teachers, therapists and guides at different stages of my life in support of my healing, growth and unrelenting questions.
I've been married and divorced twice. I'm married again to the most important woman in my life. I pride myself for being an engaged father of two amazingly beautiful, creative and talented human beings. They are the inspiration for much of the work I do today.
For nearly twenty years, I’ve participated in and facilitated men's groups and workshops around the modern masculine and trauma. In the last ten years, I've coached executives and entrepreneurs on the softer side of leadership and overcoming imposter syndrome. I've supported individuals to find purpose and direction in their lives. I've helped couples learn to communicate to create connection, intimacy and trust. And recently, I’ve held talks on social justice and racism in North America, racial bias in therapy and coaching, and integrating diversity, equity and inclusion work within organizations. For a myriad of reasons, I'm finding that working with men of color has become my calling.
I’m a trained and certified coach with the Co-Active Training Institute (CTI) of which I'm also a faculty member. I hold an accreditation with the International Coaches Federation (ICF). I'm also on ICF's Global Council for Diversity, Equity, Inclusivity and Belonging (DEIB). I’m an Imago Professional Facilitator and a member of the Imago Relationships North America. In addition, I bring aspects of conscious leadership, somatic coaching, narrative coaching, emotional intelligence, positive intelligence, enneagrams and racial wholeness into my work.
Testimonials
“With his skilled support and understanding, I leaned into the question of “Who am I?””
— Altaf
“As a life coach and mentor, Charles is in a class by himself. He has perfected the skills of active listening and always, in a loving and compassionate way, knows how to ask the right questions. His questions and insight always lead me to a deeper knowledge of myself, personal growth and healing.”
— Mike Nisbett, Real Dads Network
